Well, 2020 is truly the gift that keeps on taking.  On Wednesday last week I got a message saying that my father was in critical condition. He hadn’t been feeling well. He and his wife had been on the way to the hospital when he stopped breathing. By the time they got there he had

A thing that’s been happening lately is that people ask me my opinion of things. And, I mean, I started a one-woman podcast. Of course I am egomaniacal enough to very much enjoy telling people what I think about stuff. Even when I’m entirely unqualified! Which is often! But there are some topics that I’ve

**Updated August 2022** When I first compiled this list of chairs for fat people, I had tried a dozen or so seating options and had had varying degrees of success. In the past couple of years, though, my butt has been hard at work sit-testing dozens more options, also to varying degrees of success. Today

Let me start this by saying that whatever you currently do in the bathroom is fine. I’m not here to shame your hygiene habits. But I do want you to know that if you have never used a bidet, you are missing out. And by “you” I mean your butt. If you are a human

I am not a winter person. I hate it, in fact. Every year I anxiously worry about how much snow there will be and how I’ll get through it without falling. I’m fat enough that getting up from a clean, dry floor is only manageable if I have something stable to hold on to. The

*ATTENTION: This post has been updated and now includes 20 more seating options. CLICK HERE for the 2019 update!* Seating is truly one of the most difficult things to navigate as a fat person. Are the restaurant chairs sturdy? Do they have arms? Does the place only have booths? What if they only have high

“Flying While Fat”, an awesome recent video by size activist Stacy Bias, was published in an effort to express the experience of being the (dreaded) fat person on the plane. Fat people take up more space than thin or average-sized people and there has been much controversy around how to react to and rectify that fact

Author note: In the years since this piece was originally published, I have become aware of the history of the term “superfat” and its origins with the most marginalized fats at NOLOSE. I regret that I wrote this piece without that important historical context, and I hope that everyone who reads this will also read